Dear Friend,
First of all, I applaud your courage in asking for prayer and helps. There is no shame in admitting you are like every other person in the world. We all struggle. Sex is from God, He created it. The enemy of God hates sex God's way because he knows that he can hurt people if they misuse such a wonderful thing God created.
Sexual addiction is so tough to conquer because it involves a natural process of arousal that God gave us to use for bonding and chemicals in our brain that are addicting, mainly because they feel so very good.
You may think that once you have a partner, this problem will go away, but that is not so. It might even make the urges worse, as the intimacy with another person can be intimidating and require effort, energy and focusing on their pleasure, which porn does not. Porn is an escape pattern. The mind uses it to distract people from uncomfortable feelings we don't not want to face, like our loneliness, fear,being bored,and many other things it doesn't want to face.
I know God can heal you from the thoughts and images that may be lodged inside your brain, if you are willing to do the work.
The first step is what you have already done- realizing that you are powerless over it , and that it is hindering you from getting what you really want-It is sin because you are using other people for your own gratification.
The second step is asking God to help you find a group- I just started going to Celebrate Recovery, a Christian group that helps people work through any addiction, in a very confidential, safe,and supportive environment. Being able to tell others, without fear of being exposed or shamed is very freeing.See if there is a group near you.
God wants you to be loved, and that is what you want too. I know that as you come forward into a group, that He will bring you someone at just the right time who you can talk to about this issue openly, and you can pray for each other to stay faithful to one another.
I am happy for you that you are ready to grow and find the freedom and happiness in your life and relationships! I know you will! Be patient though. I have wanted this healing process to go much faster than it has, but God has His reasons for the process He takes each of us through- it differs for each person. He also knows the person he has for you and will bring you to the place where you have understanding about her struggles with her own urges.
I am so glad that you asked for prayer at your age. You are a great example to others.
" Dear Heavenly Father,
You know this young person very well, and know exactly what he needs, and when. Please fill Him with Your Spirit so that he finds freedom from the urges which plague us human beings. We not only have hormones that scream at us , no matter what age or gender we are, but we have this thing called sin that doesn't understand control.We also have an enemy that has come to steal, kill and destroy all the good you want to give us. You came to help us do what we can not do, overcome . It seems so impossible at times, but You can and will help us when we surrender to You. Please direct him to a group where he can be accepted, and realize he is not alone. Remove the feelings of shame from him.
We are forgiven in You.
I ask you to prepare him a wife, and him for her, to come into his life at the moment You choose. Give him a sense of Your will about this, and patience to wait for You to show him who she is. Give him the experiences he needs to understand her uniquely. Prepare them to be supportive , loving partners that can talk about their sexual urges, and can pray for each other to be faithful to each other and to You.
Bless this young person with the freedom he desires. Show him how he ought to pray for his wife, knowing that she is out there somewhere, and needs his prayers too. There is so much to twist the beautiful natural desire you gave us for each other. Bless him with the wholeness and purity of mind that makes the incredible sex in marriage when all the sexual energy is saved for the One You choose. That kind gets better with time in a loving ,tender, faithful marriage, where two people understand what deep love is. You are the One who shows us through Your love for us.
Thank you for teaching all of us how to love, through Your love for us. Allow this person to be filled up with You and comfort him deep inside his soul. We all need touch, and those of us who are blessed with being single at the moment know what it is like to be so hungry to be loved, and to make love. But, You will help him, and the rest of us, turn to You to meet us where our life's circustances have us at the moment. You can meet our every need, however you choose to do that individually, and in personally unique ways.
Please help him wait for the One You want him to spend the rest of his life with- His companion perfectly suited to be his helper in all ways suited well for the other. Only you know the deepest desires of our hearts.
Give him the victory, not only in this area, but in all areas of His life. Use this circumstance to show Him how much YOU care about him, and do care that he has a great sex life in your time, your way.
May his future marriage be like you intended:
" And they were both naked , the man and his wife, and were not ashamed."Genesis 2:25
In Jesus Name,
Amen