My wife and I have been married for only 4 years so far, and have spent much of that time serving God overseas.

My wife is the most wonderful, beautiful and wise woman, but has often struggled sharing her emotions and thoughts. When she does share, things are always amazing as we work well and make great decisions together. This year has been especially difficult, not made easier by the fact that I was mainly house bound with sickness until early September, and not too entertaining or enthusiastic about life during that time.

Some weeks ago my wife opened up with some of what she was feeling, but then suddenly felt the need to leave. Nearly two weeks later she was able to tell me why she had left and the fact that she sees our marriage as completely over with no chance for redemption. In that time God had revealed some things to me, but the things my wife revealed were all quite surprising. They were all things that we discussed in detail before we married; things that we were incredibly careful to address, mainly because many related to my past sin. She has always been welcome (although I warned that I may not be too enthusiastic) to readdress any thing relating to my past sin if she needs to, but, until now, there has not been a hint of these topics.

The crazy thing is that we have proven in the past that we can talk about anything well together and are able to approach God together for anything, and that seems so easily possible in this case.

I have been in constant contact with a leader from our home church, and my wife says that people have contacted her to, but because of limitations set by my wife, there is absolutely nothing more I am able to DO at this time, other than drop everything unimportant from my life to focus on the power of praying and fasting.

My wife is the most amazing, beautiful and perfect wife, and I know that there is still more involved that I am not aware of, or else we could have already dealt with this.

I know that many marriages suffer, but God's goodness has always been evident in our marriage, and there is obviously still huge promises and blessings in store for us if only we can unite and come together before God, but things look far from promising based on what my wife is currently choosing - she is the sort of person to stick with a decision she makes, so the fact that this has just been only a few short weeks makes it look even worse, especially as it means breaking a previously made commitment. But regardless, this is truly a very special marriage, with much promise, worth praying for. Please pray for the healing of wounds & health and the restoration of our marriage. And if this in any way looks like it is my wife that is at fault (due to my views and opinions), she isn't! She is an amazing woman, but has just not been able to cope with all that she is facing, making me quite responsible too, especially since all the issues she has mentioned directly relate to me, my life and my past sins. So please pray for us both.

Prayer request made golden: 2 months, 3 weeks ago