I know how you feel. I have been married for almost two years but we have been together for 8 years and we have a 3 and 4 year old. My husband is a binge drinker and he gets very nasty. Sometimes I feel like I should give up but I love him and I also want my family to work out and for us to stay together. I will pray for you. Renee

Dear Suz,
Wow. IT is a challenging question. I had to divorce my husband,and wrestled for many years over that exact question. For me, it was process. I wanted to make certain that when I made that final decision that it was the right thing to do. My ex- husband and I were seperated for almost four years before I filed for divorce and by that time, I knew it was the right thing.
I did not get married to get divorced. I did not want to be a divorced woman. For me, I think the answer is you will just know. After four years of praying, searching the Holy Spirit's guidence and being really confused, God did a series of things that made it clear to me what to do. It was a very difficult process, but GOd did answer me, eventually,( He is , always it seems to me rather late for my taste) and I know that He was developing character and strength in me to make it as a single mom through that time.
He knows when we are ready. He also knows the heart of your husband. Since HE knows all things and is not bound by time, He also knows what is to come, whether or not your husband will ever have a heart change.
I will pray for you to have peace, as you go through this process.
Sometimes, God does do miracles! I have seen it, and it is beautiful. God is able to do for us the best thing, and sometimes we just don not know what that is, or don't like it.
Anyway, God loves you and your husband. Being in an unloving marraige is very painful, but so is the lonliness that comes from being alone afterwards. I will pray for you, that God bless you and your husband.
Dear heavenly Father,
I lift up this woman to you who is seeking answers from You. You know her intimatley and her husband, before they were formed in the womb. You knew they would be at this point right now in their marriage.
Only You can give perfect wisdom and counsel. Please show Suz exactly what YOU would have her do right now in this season of her life. Please illiminate scriptures for her that speak to her heart about her situation.
I ask you to touch her husbands heart, reach onto his soul, and stir his spirit to want to know You. Give him the kind of love for her that you have, sacrafical, protective,tender,so that he views her as the precious jewel she is.
If there is anything that you would have her do for him, to show her love for him, I ask you to give her strength to do it. Bring to her mind ways that she can show him love in concrete ways so that he knows he is loved and accepted by her.
Surround them with your angels and provide a way for them to experince the true joy of friendship, companionship, and passion that marraige is supposed to be.
Give her a calm spirit to hear You speak to her. I pray that she feels Your presence with her in a way she has never felt before. So that whatever happens , she will know that You are always with her.
In JEsus Amen,

I pray that God will reveal himself to you, and at the appointed time God will lead you to the right path. Amen. Meanwhile stand still... rest in the assurance that God is with you and he will never leave you nor forsake you. At the appointed time God will show up!!